Sorry No Song ~

I started this on Monday Nov 15 ~ posted it Nov 20 ~ it's a difficult thing to go through never mind write about.....

I have had a run of bad luck lately so haven't posted.  My mother-in-law is in the hospital and has been since September. She is 81 years and lived in her own house until she went into the hospital with a bladder infection that turned out to be a lump they took out and biopsied and told us it was cancer but they got it all...(what they didn't tell us was over 50% bladder cancer comes back).
While she recouped in a assisted living home, she fell and broke her hip ~ our medical system sucks ~ the hospital in her city couldn't take her so they phone hospitals in the lower mainland until they find one that will take her and the only one willing to admit her for surgery to fix her hip was an hour away!!  She got the surgery she needed, a couple screws in her hip and she went downhill from there, to the point of what I would call the closest thing to comatose you can get without actually being comatose ~ she didn't recognize anyone the few times she was awake ~ mostly she slept a lot and would open her eyes now and then, not 'see' anyone.  Her feet and hands were so cold and looked blue.  Her ankles were so swollen they looked deformed.  Her arms started to swell and she lost a lot of weight.  We were told the swelling is due to the kidneys shutting down ~ and the Dr. ask if we had arrangements for her as she wouldn't be much longer in this world.
Then one day we went into the hospital and she was sitting up drinking tea (on her own) and said Hi Ray, how are you?  We were flabbergasted ~ no more swelling, no cold blue hands or feet.  She couldn't walk or even get out of bed on her own, but it was so nice to be able to talk to her again.  She had no clue what she'd been through the last 2 - 3 weeks.  She wanted to go home!  We put her back on the wait list for Surrey ~ we'd taken her off as we thought she wouldn't survive long the ambulance ride.  So another 2 weeks and she's back in Surrey, thank God ~ and we've learned the cancer is back.  My husband had the horrible task of telling her and asking her if she wanted them to try and fix it ~ her answer ~ NO let me go.  She's now failing once again, and with no meds  or feeding tube or any measures to save her.  The dr. has ordered her some pretty stong medication to keep the pain at bay, and it's all a waiting game now....we try to keep her comfortable and pray she goes peacefully.  I will miss her, she is the sweetest lady I've ever met.